It's that T.I.M.E of the week again!

The newsletter that provides actionable life lessons to a wealthier, healthier, and happier future.

The Friendship Graph

The Friendship Graph is a valuable tool for assessing relationships in your life based on two key factors: how healthy a friendship is and how enjoyable it is.

Here is a break down of each quadrant and some actionable advice to help you make decisions on what to do with the relationships in your life.

Q4: Top Left Quadrant – Enjoyable but Unhealthy Friendships

These friendships are fun and bring excitement but they aren't healthy. They might lack mutual respect, trust, or stability.

• Actionable Steps:

  1. Set Boundaries: Enjoyable friendships can be great, but it's crucial to set limits if they become draining, demanding, or inconsistent. Be clear about what behaviors you won’t tolerate.

  2. Evaluate Values: Ask yourself if the fun comes at a cost. Does this person encourage bad habits, excessive indulgence, or negatively impact your growth?

  3. Have an Honest Conversation: Sometimes, these friendships can improve with communication. Talk to the person about making the relationship more balanced and positive.

  4. Limit Time Together: If the unhealthy aspects can’t be changed then reduce how often you engage with this friend. Try to enjoy the positives in moderation.

Q3: Bottom Left Quadrant – Toxic Friendships

These friendships are neither healthy nor enjoyable. They bring negativity, drain your energy, and possibly contribute to stress or anxiety.

• Actionable Steps:

  1. Distance Yourself: Start by reducing contact. These relationships don't benefit you and may cause harm.

  2. Reflect: Identify the reasons why this friendship became unhealthy and unenjoyable to avoid repeating the pattern.

  3. Let Go: It’s okay to cut ties with people who add toxicity to your life. Prioritize your well-being over maintaining unfulfilling relationships.

Q2: Bottom Right Quadrant – Healthy but Not Enjoyable Friendships

These friendships are based on respect, support, and good intentions, but they lack fun or enjoyment. They may feel stagnant or maybe even feel too serious.

• Actionable Steps:

  1. Inject Fun: Try to introduce new activities or shared experiences that could increase the enjoyment factor. Invite them to something spontaneous.

  2. Reassess Interests: You may not have a strong emotional or hobby-based connection. Find common interests or ways to relate beyond the serious aspects of the relationship.

  3. Accept the Role: These friendships may serve a specific purpose (e.g., work colleagues or mentors). Appreciate them for the value they bring, even if they aren’t your go-to for social fun.

  4. Diversify Your Circle: Keep these friends for the healthy, supportive aspects of the relationship but make sure you’re also spending time with people who bring joy.

Q1: Top Right Quadrant – Ideal Friendships (Healthy and Enjoyable)

These are your best relationships because they are both healthy and enjoyable. You feel supported, appreciated, and have fun together. These friendships enhance your life in a balanced and meaningful way.

• Actionable Tips:

  1. Nurture Them: Invest time and effort in these relationships. Be proactive in maintaining regular contact, planning activities, and showing appreciation.

  2. Grow Together: These friendships are opportunities for mutual growth. Share your goals and challenges, and support each other in achieving them.

  3. Celebrate Milestones: Strengthen your bond by celebrating each other’s successes, both big and small. Be genuinely happy for each other’s accomplishments.

  4. Prioritize Them: Make spending time with these friends a priority. Life gets busy, but maintaining these friendships should be a top goal as they provide emotional and mental well-being.

  5. Communicate Openly: Keep the lines of communication open. Share feelings, listen actively, and offer constructive feedback. These friendships thrive on transparency and mutual care.

Remember that balancing your social life with the right people leads to a healthier, happier you.

If you are reading this newsletter I assume you share similar interests to me. A big one being health!

If you have not heard the new “buzz” word that has being thrown around called Biohacking, it refers to the practice of using science, technology, and lifestyle changes to optimize the human body's performance, health, and well-being.

The Ultimate Human Podcast is hosted by Gary Brecka who is best known for helping UFC president Dana White regain his optimal health back after being on the verge of an early demise.

In this episode, Gary answers the most frequently asked questions from his viewership and he dissects each one into bite sized chunks.

Here are just some topics he covers that grabbed my attention:

• Colostrum: Necessary or Fad? (01:03)

• Low Testosterone (02:54)

• Supplements for Detox and Hormonal Balance (05:06)

• Homemade Bone Broth (06:25)

• Fish Oil Intake (07:14)

• Weight Loss (09:55)

• Deficiencies Causing Mental Health Issues (11:46)

• Biohacks for Hair Loss (15:23)

• New Biohacking Tools (16:41)

I am a total geek for biohacking and functional medicine so feel free to shoot me a message about what you learned. I’d love to have a chat!

Do you every stop to ask yourself if you are on track in life?

I recently deleted my main Instagram account because I found that it was causing me more distress that it was giving me value.

Every time I would go on to the app, I would see how everyone else is living their life and some small part of me would always compare in some way, even though I am still quiet content with where I am right now.

This quote by Nicola Tyler is a stark reminder that we are all equals.

Just because someone has more in their bank account, a bigger house or are further along the line in their career than you, does not make them better than you in anyway.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

It’s you against you.

P.S - Feel free to check out the ThinkerNick Instagram page where I post additional content to this newsletter. I hope it brings the same positivity and value to you as it does to me.

Looking for a way to get your mind kick started at the beginning of the day?

James Clear, the author of atomic habits said, “Carry an ambitious question with your everyday and keep looking for answers.”

Ambitious questions is a concept that I am going to try to explore to generate new ideas, increase focus, boost creativity and spark curiosity in my life.

For the next week, try writing down 1 ambitious question each morning as soon as you open your eyes and let your mind ponder on it throughout the day.

Here are some questions to get you started:

1. How can I complete my 5 year plan in 5 months?

2. How can I turn my biggest challenge into an opportunity?

3. How can I make a lasting impact on the world around me?

4. If I could solve one global problem, what would it be, and how would I start?

5. How can I improve one area of my life by just 1% today?

6. What would I attempt if I knew I could not fail?

7. What am I avoiding, and why?

8. What would I do differently if I had no fear of judgment or failure?

You never know, you know come up with the next Unicorn idea 😉 

In case you missed last week's newsletter, I spoke about:

• The Eisenhower Matrix: A time management tool to prioritize tasks by urgency and importance, helping you focus on what truly matters.

• Deep Work vs. Shallow Work: Insights from Clark Kegley on how to stay focused in a world of distractions, emphasizing the importance of deep work for productivity and fulfillment.

• Do the Hard Thing: A motivational quote from Joseph Campbell, encouraging you to face your fears and embrace discomfort for personal growth.

• 100 Tiny Tricks: Practical life hacks from The Guardian, such as turning off self-view on video calls and using a triple task list to boost daily productivity.

Check it out here!

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THANKS FOR READING LEGENDS!